Chit Chats with Prit- Attention Seeking

Hey there!

I hope you all are doing well :)  I honestly cannot believe it is February already, which means I start university this month. Holy crap!

So welcome to another edition of Chit Chats with Prit. Now I will be honest and say I haven't uploaded any blog posts lately as I just could not think of a good enough topic to talk about. Sorry! Nonetheless, I have something for you. 

Everyone has problems in their lives. Whether it be big or small. At home, at work, in friendship groups or with a partner. 

EVERYONE HAS THEM!

That does not mean that if one decides to share with someone or be left alone for sometime, that they are attention seeking. They are not. They are not. They are not. They are not. 

Yes I do agree that there are people who prefer to keep their problems to themselves but that does in no way mean that those who prefer to speak about it are attention seeking. It just does not add up. Sometimes, it may have been just too much to handle and one MUST BURST! Listen society, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. Not everyone is able to hide their problems and smile in front of the world because everyone is DIFFERENT. 

 Unfortunately in today's society, speaking up about issues is viewed as attention seeking but that is a whole bunch of disgusting rubbish! SPEAKING OUT ABOUT PROBLEMS IS NOT ATTENTION SEEKING! IT IS NOT GAINING FAKE SYMPATHY! It boils my blood to know that we are living in a world which has this type of mentality today. 

This thought has led to so many issues such as depression and suicide, all because one cannot express their problems with others because they are scared of being given the tag of an 'attention seeker'. If you are one of those people who like to tag people as attention seekers then you need to reconsider yourself. Just because other people may not be as strong as you doesn't meant they are an attention seeker. That thought is shallow. 

Personally speaking, I am the type of person who likes to share my problems with other people because it makes me feel better and there is nothing wrong with that! If you are like me then don't be afraid! PLEASE SHARE YOUR PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS WHO ARE WILLING TO HELP YOU AND LISTEN TO YOU!  Some people may prefer to write it down in a diary and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT EITHER!

Do not pay attention to the tag of being an attention seeker because you are not. No one is. Just because one prefers to share their problems with other doesn't mean they want attention or fake sympathy. 

Share it. It will make you feel better. 

Don't be afraid. 

Someone will listen to you. 

Someone will help you. 

Chit Chats with Prit- Living up to Standards

Hello everyone, 

I hope 2015 is treating you well so far. For me, it has been okay, nothing too exciting. Honestly, I wish I could go back to 2014 just so I could enjoy the times with my friends (not for the HSC!!).

Anyways, so this is the first post of my 'Chit Chats with Prit' series. The reason why I did not post something in this series straight away was because I couldn't really think of a proper topic to start off with. Nonetheless, I thought that maybe I should start off with something that I can properly relate to as it has affected my life significantly.  Just before I start this post off, I just want to make it clear that I have no intention of seeking any sort of sympathetic attention from anyone. The reason for this series is just so I can speak about certain topics which other people and myself may be facing and maybe help those who may be going through a rough time. I also want to use this space as a place where I can speak and clear my mind.

Standards is something which we all come across at some point in our lives. The expectations of people and society can be really daunting and uncomfortable. I guess it just depends on an individuals will power as to how they let standards and expectations affect them. Speaking from experience, and to be very frank, I do not have the essential will power to not let these standards and expectations effect me.

There are a couple of people in my life who are constantly eyeing my family and I regarding what we do, how we act and basically everything. They do not leave a chance to comment on our lives as they believe we are not abiding by THEIR standards and expectations. There was a point last year where I was told by my school counscellor that I am suffering from anxiety due to these people. Trying to follow standards and live up to expectations caused me to not be able to concentrate on my studies and thus it resulted in multiple breakdowns. It goes to show that I am not able to control my thoughts which has resulted in living up to standards and expectations a habit in my life.

I have found that, I have tried living up to EVERYONE'S standards and expectations in my life. Whether that is my parents, family and even friends. Are you the type of person who tries their hardest to make one person happy if they don't like them even though there are about another hundred or so who do you like you? If so, then join the club. I am also that person. I know that there are many people out there who like me for who I am, however, I do tend to run after those who don't like me. Again, it has become a habit.

I have found that because I have been trying to live up to everyone's standards, I have lost who I truly am. Frankly speaking, till this day I still do not know what my personality is and the type of person I am. I cannot define myself. I cannot say that "oh this is me". Why? Because I have so many standards built inside of me.

I do not know if there are other people out there like me but if you are reading and are also like me, then here is a message for you.


My school counscellor told me "there are three types of people in this world...... one, people who like you, two people who don't like you and three, people who will never like you". Thus, it is up to YOU to decide who to give your attention to. I honestly still have to learn this. I have tried to fulfil everyone's expectations, yet it has only ever caused me stress and nothing else.

So just remember, living up to standards and expectations is not necessary. You will lose your true self. Just take a deep breath and keep doing what YOU want to do, not what SOMEONE ELSE wants you to do.


You are your own soul and your own mind.


Please do share your feelings about this issue (you can stay anonymous)



Lots of love,
Pritika xo